Updated: Jun 5, 2020
The past few weeks accommodated a series of events occurring with an unprecedented speed. Ranging from health to racism and from decisions (be them corporate or governmental) to generating online content, these events play their toll on our attention span, emotional context and way of living. They generate different reactions from one individual to another, laying foundations to diverse ways of responding: adapting, coping, living, surviving or (even) thriving.
A significant number of my clients feel blocked facing this avalanche of events, online content shared on social media, sudden changes of their way of working and lifestyle. The usual ”suspect” questions are: what source of information should I follow? What goes next in the pandemic evolution? When will I start resuming my activities? How should I deal with my kid barging into all my conference/video calls? How should I express my feeling towards what I am seeing on social media? What should be my next step? What are my choices? How will I ensure the financial stability of my household? How will I get a job now?
The questions go on and on and become so many that they literally start haunting the human intellect to a point where the brain loses the ability to react and stalls everything instead.
A good technique to break the blocking chain is to start an introspection on what is truly important to you at a particular moment in time. And you would say that the corporate world is training folks to distinguish correctly between what is urgent and what is important. Ironically enough, in this particular context, people are more confused on what is important vs. what is urgent because the to whom is missing from the question. The corporate world educates folks to attempt to distinguish what is important and what is urgent in the context of the corporate interest and less in the context of individuals.
Coaching taught me to look for rephrasing (I shared an earlier example with you in a previous post) and to strive to make my affirmations simpler. So I took the challenge to rephrase ”important”. Crazy, right?
In this particular case, it is also the corporate world that provides the alternative: what if, instead of ”important” we use the term ”value” or ”present value”? The question would then change from what is truly important to you at a particular time to what brings you value today/what is the present value of this thought for you. And, if this does not sound compelling enough you can always add for you and your family.
I have seen my clients reconsidering ”important” in terms of ”value” and ending up with different priorities... after all, it is important to save the world tomorrow but the present value of an action can be higher for you. If you want to be part of the clients that will find their value(s), drop me a note.
As Michael Jackson once stated, it all starts with the Man in the mirror.